Updated: Jun 6, 2018
4 Tricks That Helped Me Find Balance In Life:
I'd be lying if I said I had life figured out. I am usually late. I always forget to bring extra diapers, and I probably drink way too much coffee. I feel like most days I am playing catch up -- laundry, dishes, homework etc. etc. Raising two kids while getting myself through college was something I knew would take some careful planning and a lot of work! Life is a balancing act that I haven't quite mastered, but I have learned a few tricks along the way.
1. Prioritize Your Time
I used to get so frustrated every time I tried to work on an assignment at home and Arlo would bang on my keyboard + Reign would scream at the top of her lungs. It made it impossible to be completely present as a student and as a mom. I quickly found out that I needed to keep my school work at school and not worry about it while I was at home with my kids. Which meant longer days at school -- something that was SO difficult for me at first, but eventually I found myself less stressed at home and spending more quality time with my kids.
2. Do What Feels Right For You
I know, easier said than done -- especially when everyone has their own opinion about what you "should" be doing. I was told by so many different people that I should "go back to school immediately", as if I would never go back if I took a little time off to be home with my kids. Others said I should "take more time off" because my kids are so young. It was hard to figure out what was right for me, but I decided to take one semester off, while Arlo was a baby (same with Reign), and went back when he was about eight months old. He was a lot more independent around this age, which made it easier for him (and me) to leave for longer periods of time. If it is clear to you what the best route is, then ignore the people who think they know more about your life than you do.
3. Set Goals
I have always been a “go with the flow” type of person, with a “cross that bridge when I get to it” mentality. Major procrastinator! However, since I’ve been taking the time to set daily/weekly goals, I’ve been able to gauge my progress and keep myself accountable, which is a crucial ingredient to successful time management. This new way of organizing my life has made things that seemed so unattainable come to fruition. Once you start seeing the progress from the little goals you start to set, you will naturally want to start setting even bigger goals! Just keep at it!
4. Believe In Yourself
There is no right way to do life. So what works for someone else, may not work for you. But figure out what works for you, and believe in it. Hold tight to it and pursue your dreams! Having confidence in yourself will have more influence on your ability to achieve your goals than any other piece of advice I could give you. Believe. In. Yourself. You can do it!
Have any other advice to share? I'd love to hear from you in the comments section below!